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将你的名字列入想要制造快乐的人的名单中。不要“我第一”或是“唯我独尊”，而要“我也是”。平衡才是目标。许可才是关键。就从此刻开始！
■ 心灵小语
现代社会的生活节奏越来越快，人们的压力也越来越大，通常会使人无法适应、情绪低迷、生活失控。所以我们要以健康的身体、愉悦的心情、积极的心态投入到工作和学习中，做到每天都心情舒畅，微笑着面对生活。
Give Yourself a Break
Anonymous
No one can do it all．Each of us has to make choices and accept trade…offs。 The problem is，many people choose in ways that put themselves and their health last． They take better care of their houses and cars than they do of themselves． They put everyone else’s needs ahead of their own． That’s fine if it’s occasional． It would eyen be okay if there was a balance． But most people living that way are wearing themselves out，feeling out of control．Fortunately，life doesn’t have to be like that．
One phrase can be very helpful：It’s the name of a book by Sol Gordon and Harold Brochure，Life Is Uncertain—Eat Dessert First！ If the good stuff always gets left until last，it usually doesn’t happen． Work before health and pleasure soon bees work instead of health and pleasure．
Notice how it happens：Folks get busy and run short of time；they stop exercising or start skipping meals；next they steal time from their sleep．Soon they get too busy to see friends；they stop reading or playing ball，and six months go by without a long walk． That’s not a great way to live．
So what is the solution？ In a word，prioritize． Decide what you want in your life，and put that first． On a daily basis，that should include regular meals，adequate sleep and time with your family． Exercise，leisure，friendships and hobbies should also be regular aspects of life．The point is to do something for yourself： whatever makes you feel good about yourself and your life． Take a nap． Take a walk．Take time to play the piano．Of course，you’ll have to trade off some of the things that are currently clogging your schedule to make room for your new priorities． Stop bringing your briefcase home from the office． Stop keeping your house as clean as your mother kept hers． Fill more of your time with want…to…do instead of have…to…do．
Add your name to the list of people who’re trying to make happy． Not “me first” or “me only” but “me，too”。 Balance is the goal． Permission is the key．And the time to start is now．
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清理心灵空间（1）
珍妮弗？吉弗莱
回想一下你上次产生的消极情绪，如压抑、气愤或受挫。当你身处那种消极情绪中时，你的头脑里在想些什么呢？你的头脑是混乱如麻？还是瘫痪了，不能再进行思考？
下一次，当你发现自己非常压抑，或者极其愤怒，或者万分沮丧时，尽量停止吧。对！就是停止。无论你现在正做着什么，停止手头的工作，静坐一会儿。静坐的同时，让自己完全沉浸在消极的情绪之中。
让那种情绪完全将你吞噬，让自己有一点时间，真实地去感受那种情绪。在这里，不要欺骗自己。用整整一分钟——仅仅一分钟——不去做其他任何事情，只去感受那种情绪。
当整整一分钟过去，问问你自己：“在今天剩余的时间里，我愿意继续这种消极情绪吗？”
只要你彻底地将自己沉入其中，并真实地去体会它，你就会意外地发现那种情绪很快就消失了。
如果你觉得有必要再将这种情绪继续一段时间，那好，没关系，再给自己一分钟，去体会这种情绪。
如果你觉得自己体会得很透彻了，那就问问自己是否愿意让这种消极继续在你的剩余时间里存在。如果是“不”，那就深呼吸一次，将所有的消极随着你的呼吸释放出去。
这种方法看似简单——几乎是过分地简单了，但是其效果却很显著。通过给自己真正体会消极情绪的空间，你能够真正与这种情绪接触，而不是去压抑它、回避它。给这种情绪一定的空间，给它必要的关注，这样真正使你消除了其力量。当你沉浸在这种情绪中时，就会明白它只是一种情感，就会不再受其影响。然后，你就可以清理自己的头脑，继续工作了。
试试这种方法。下一次当你处于消极的情绪之中时，让自己有体会这种情绪的一点空间，然后看看随后会发生什么。随身带着一张写着下面这些话的纸：
停止。让自己在这种情绪中沉浸一分钟。我想要这种情绪继续下去吗？深呼吸，放松，继续行动！
这张纸会提醒你要做的步骤。需要牢记的是，用必要的时间真正将自己沉浸在那种情绪之中。然后，当你认为自己充分体会了这种情绪时，就将其释放——让它真正地从你的心中消失。你一定会惊讶于摆脱消极情绪并着手工作的迅速。
■ 心灵小语
遇到了挫折，精神状态不好，于是情绪低迷，烦闷不安，不能专心工作，心情浮躁，想必这样的情况大家都遇到过，你是怎样克服的呢？本文就给大家建议了一个很好的方法，可以使大家从心理上打败这种消极情绪，积极投身于工作。可以尝试一下，效果很不错！
Clear Your Mental Space
Jennifer Givler
Think about the last time you felt a negative1 emotion—like stress； anger； or frustration。 What was going through your mind as you were going through that negativity？ Was your mind cluttered with thoughts？ Or was it paralyzed； unable to think？
The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time； or you feel angry or frustrated2； stop。 Yes； that’s right； stop。 Whatever you’re doing； stop and sit for one minute。 While you’re sitting there； pletely immerse yourself in the negative emotion。
Allow that emotion to consume you。 Allow yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion。 Don’t cheat yourself here。 Take the entire minute—but only one minute—to do nothing else but feel that emotion。
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清理心灵空间（2）
Once you’ve allowed yourself to be totally immersed3 in the emotion and really feel it； you will be surprised to find that the emotion clears rather quickly。
If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer； that is OK。 Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion。
When you feel you’ve had enough of the emotion； ask yourself if you’re willing to carry that negativity with you for the rest of the day。 If not； take a deep breath； as you exhale4； release all that negativity with your breath。
This exercise seems simple—almost too simple。 But； it is very effective。 By allowing that negative emotion the space to be truly felt； you are dealing with the emotion rather than stuffing it down and trying not to feel it。 You are actually taking away the power of the emotion by giving it the space and attention it needs。 When you immerse yourself in the emotion； and realize that it is only emotion； it loses its control。 You can clear your head and proceed with your task。
Try it。 Next time you’re in the middle of a negative emotion； give yourself the space to feel the emotion and see what happens。 Keep a piece of paper with you that say the following：
Stop。 Immerse for one minute。 Do I want to keep this negativity？ Breath deep； exhale； release。 Move on！
This will remind you of the steps to the process。 Remember； take the time you need to really immerse yourself in the emotion。 Then； when you feel you’ve felt it enough； release it — really let go of it。 You will be surprised at how quickly you can move on from a negative situation and get to what you really want to do！
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以特定的方式思考（1）
华莱士？D。 沃勒斯
拥有一个美好的想法是致富的第一步。你必须要构思一张清晰的目标蓝图。你不能左顾右盼，除非你已经拥有了你想要的。
在你表达想法之前，一定要做到心中有数，许多人在表达思想时都会失败，因为他们对于自己想做什么、想要什么或是想成为什么的概念都是非常模糊的。
如果你对富裕的概念只是“过富有的生活”，这是不够的。每个人都有这样的愿望。 如果你只想要旅行、观光、更好地生活，这是不够的。每个人也都有这样的愿望。如果你想给一个朋友发一个无线电报，你不会将字母表上的所有字母按顺序发给他，让他自己拼凑信息，也不会随机从词典中找一些词胡乱发给他。而是发一条有条理的并包含一定内容的句子给他。
你必须要在脑中形成一幅清晰的思想蓝图。正如水手的脑中一直想着驶向的港口，你必须一直面对这个画面，一定不能忘记它，正如舵手记住罗盘一样。
你没必要练习集中精力，不用安排时间做祈祷和证明，也不用“保持沉默”，更不用做任何形式的神秘之事。许多事情都是有帮助的，但你需要知道的是你想要的是什么，并一直想着它，让它停留在你的思想中。
除非你真的想要致富，所以强烈的愿望会使你的思想集中在你的目标中，就如罗盘上的指针一直指向南方一样。
你越清晰、越明确地构思你的图画，越仔细地绘出许多令人愉快的细节，你的欲望也就越强烈。当你的欲望越加强烈时，你就会将思想驻留在你想象的画面中。
然而，还有一件事情是非常必要的——只是清晰地构思蓝图还是不够的。如果这就是你所要做的，你就仅仅是一个梦想家，而没有实现梦想的能力。在有了明确的目标之后，就要去实现它，要用切实的行动表现出来。在这个目标的背后，一定要有一个不可征服和不可动摇的决心——你已经掌握在手了，只要拥有它就可以了。
想象你想要的东西已经在你的身边了。想象你已经拥有并使用它了。
想象你的思想蓝图，直到它变得清晰、明显，于是让自己成为这幅画面中一切的拥有者。坚持这种想法，不要放弃梦想成真的愿望。
一旦你清晰地构思出你的蓝图，你就会接受所有事情。当这幅画渐渐形成后，你就会以一颗感恩的心不停地陈述。于是，你必须在心里接受你所想要的，住新房、穿新衣、开新车、去旅行，计划着更好的旅程。始终在心里想着念着你已经是真正的拥有者了。在心里想象你想要的环境和财政状况，直到一切成为现实。
然而，注意不要让自己仅仅成为一个梦想和城堡的建造者。坚信愿望和目标都能实现。记住将想象当做信念还是目的是科学家和梦想家的区别。
学到这个事实后，你就必须要将目标转化为现实。
■ 心灵小语
有时，强烈的梦想不仅会给我们创造机会，还会激发我们的聪明才智。可是有了梦想，却不一定能够实现。成功不会等待。如果你稍加迟疑，她就会投入别人的怀抱，而你也将永远失去她。除非你付诸行动，否则一切都还是毫无意义。只有行动才会使梦想、计划和目标成为有生力量。行动就像食物和水分一样，会滋养我们的梦想和成功之花。
Thinking in the Certain Way
Wallace D。 Wattles
You will get a fair idea of the initial step toward getting rich。 You must form a clear and definite mental picture of what you want。 You cannot transmit1 an idea unless you have it yourself。
You must have it before you can give it； and many people fail to impress thinking substance because they have themselves only a vague and misty concept of the things they want to do； to have； or to bee。书包 网 。 想看书来
以特定的方式思考（2）
It is not enough that you should have a general desire for wealth “to do good with”。 Everybody has that desire。
It is not enough that you should have a wish to travel； see things； live more； etc。 Everybody has those desires also。 If you were going to send a wireless message to a friend； you would not send the letters of the alphabet in their order and let him construct the message for himself； nor would you take words at random from the dictionary。 You would send a coherent sentence； one which meant something。
That clear mental picture you must have continually in mind。 As the sailor has in mind the port toward which he is sailing the ship； you must keep your face toward it all the time。 You must no more lose sight of it than the helmsman loses sight of the pass。
It is not necessary to take exercises in concentration； nor to set apart special times for prayer and affirmation； nor to “go into the silence；” nor to do occult stunts of any kind。 Some of these things are well enough； but all you need is to know what you want and to want it badly enough so that it will stay in your thoughts。
And unless you really w