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这可能会让你心生疑问——我们现代的课程设计是不是有点漫无边际了？可是看到那些判断力强且具有道德感的事情，总是令人愉悦的。
再来说说情商——它是谨慎而巧妙地应对个人和他人情感的能力。
想象一下，如果每个人都知道并掌握自己的动机和目标；学会在洞察和理解他人的基础上建立和谐的关系……我们将会避免多少冲突；团队和合作将会获得多么大的改善。所有事情都将会变得更让人满意。
但是，现代教育者大都避开了这一无法定量衡量的教育方式。我们究竟该不该在学校的课程中学习人性，至今还是令人怀疑的。
我在报纸上读过关于一个母亲的故事。她的儿子因为一部手机与人发生争执，结果被刺死了。她正在以受害者的名字建立一个基金会，帮助那些与杀了她儿子类似的年轻人重回正轨。
社会上那些年轻的误入歧途的人，远远比基金会里面的那些年轻犯错者多得多。社会并没有负起责任，教给这些年轻人应该知道的自律，也没有教会他们如何关怀别人、控制自己。她希望基金会的工作不仅仅能帮助那些个别的孩子，也能帮助所有类似的人。
她最后说，自己能够理解那些犯错少年的父母们，他们知道，自己的骨肉正在经受着愧疚的煎熬。
在当地的一家商店里，我发现大家都在讨论这篇文章。“这母亲一定是个圣人，”一个年迈的顾客说道，“如果是我，我会看着杀我儿子的人上绞刑架。”
“她的心啊，”一个年轻女人叹道，“她的心没有跟儿子一起破碎真是奇迹。”
“我同意她的做法，”那位带着7个孩子的寡妇店主说，“看看我们生存的这个世界，死亡并不是最可怕的事情。”
“我有一件事不能理解，”有一次，一位政客对我说，“为什么得到总是与付出的时间和精力不能成正比。我每次全身心付出时都像是冒险，而那些我不怎么上心的事情，却是最让我安慰的。”
这些话让我回忆起了很多年前，我在戏剧班的时候一位老师给出的建议。当时她对所有即将成为演员的人说道：不断地去试镜吧，把你们自己的简历发放出去，缠着那些制片人。你可能不会得到你期望的角色，但是据我的经验，努力总会有回报。机会会出现的，尽管可能从一个你从未期待的方向出现。
为什么会这样？我曾经疑问过。但是现在我要说，为什么就不是这样呢？我们怎么可能事先测量出别人的反应呢？如果我们能办到那才真的奇怪呢，因为别人都有我们无法得知的、属于自己的目的。
但只要我们去尝试，把自己的天赋和努力投入到你所要从事的事情中去，便总是会有回应。
你所要做的就是，不断去尝试和努力，不被失败和拒绝折磨；坚信努力总会有回报，尽管可能不是以我们期待的方式。
机遇的平等性是普遍公认的理想观点。谁不同意“人人应该拥有同样公平的机会”呢？
但是，如何才能称作公平？这一原则在现实生活中，与平等的概念完全相反——没有机会去享受机会的人总是比比皆是。
如果所有的竞争者都是在同一起跑线上，这可能反倒不寻常了。你可以问问那些小学老师们，让他们辨别一下在那些7岁的学生中，谁对社会的贡献可能不怎么大。他们的预言多数都是正确的。
Integration 混沌（2）
那些被归类为班级差生的小家伙们，有的可能就此便沉沦下去，或者也有可能远离被认为是反社会的那些行为：犯罪或沉溺，成为那些所谓先进的、狭窄的价值观体系的受害者。在这一价值观体系下，社会只承认和鼓励少数几个“优秀”的品质。
但是，我们中的每一个人，都能够开发出某种潜质，也都能贡献自己的某些价值。每个人生来总是有与他人平等的、属于自己的位置和作用。
我们都有让自己人生丰盈的能力，也有权利去超越自己，做一个更好的自己。
一个真正公平的社会，不是建立在平等的机会上，而是建立在平等的价值观体系上。
Global warming； as the term suggests； enpasses the whole world。 Environmentally unfriendly practices in the northern hemisphere accelerate the rapid melting of the ice cap in South Antarctica； which in turn has a bearing on weather patterns world…wide。
From recent research it appears that the earth’s eco…systems are so closely related that reactions by Antarctic coral and phytoplankton to adapt to changing climatic conditions are echoed by similar species in northern seas； although these are not subject to the same environmental changes。
If the use of an aerosol can in some remote spot can have an osmotic impact on living organisms at opposite ends of the world； does it not follow that all things on earth are somehow intrinsically connected？
Great thinkers have long maintained that nothing exists in isolation； human beings least of all。
We are part of the same system； no less connected； no less interdependent； than the coral and plankton。 Different； though； in that we retain a measure of control。 We are able to decide for ourselves what we do with ourselves and our heritage。
As long as we remember just how powerful we are。 Each move we make； each word spoken； each thought passing through our brain is enough to affect the world for better or； indeed； for worse。
Today’s Western world sets great store by intelligence。 Of all human characteristics； it seems to be the one most coveted。 Everyone wants to be clever – only fools like to think themselves stupid。
The official IQ tests that have been devised to measure mental ability in figures； focus on linguistic and mathematical skills。 They are supposed to be independent of culture and background； but they reflect the skills and talentsencouraged and developed in our schools。
It makes you wonder if perhaps our modern syllabus isn’t far too limited。 It would be nice to see things like good sense and ethical awareness promoted to serve the mon good。
Not to mention emotional intelligence： the ability to handle carefully； constructively； your own emotions as well as those of others。
Imagine if everyone was taught to understand and master person…al motivations and instinctive urges； trained to build harmonious relations based on insight and consideration of others… So many conflicts would be avoided； teamwork and co…operation improved； better results achieved all round。
But modern educators shy away from that which cannot be quantified。 It’s doubtful whether we shall ever see the study of human nature on a school syllabus。
I read in the paper about a mother； whose son had been stabbed to death for the sake of his mobile phone。 She was setting up a found…ation in the victim’s name to help rehabilitate delinquent youths of the kind who had killed her son。
Blaming his death； not so much on the perpetrators as on the social system that had produced them： a system failing badly in its obligation towards young people in desperate need of discipline； care and control； she hoped the work of the foundation would benefit not only the individuals targeted but anyone ever to e in their way。
Integration 混沌（3）
She finished by saying that her heart went out to those parents who had to live with the knowledge that their own flesh and blood were guilty of such an act。
In the local shop I found the article under discussion。 “That mother must be a saint；” uttered one elderly customer。 “If that had been me； I’d have campaigned to see them hanged。”
“The strength of her！” sighed a young woman。 “Isn’t it a wonder that she wasn’t broken altogether？”
“Perhaps she came to the same conclusion as I did；” said the shop…keeper； herself a widow with seven children。 “That； considering the world we live in； death is not the worst thing that can happen to a person。”
“One thing I can’t understand；” a politician once said to me； “is why one’s achievements are hardly ever in proportion to the time and energy spent on a project。 Ventures I give my heart and soul to e to nothing； whereas others； to which I pay only scant attention； fall neatly into place。”
It reminded me of advice given many years ago by one of my teachers at drama school。 “Keep going to auditions；” she told the group of prospective actors。 “Send out your details； pester producers。 You may never get the parts you hope for； but in my experience； effort is always rewarded。 An offer will e your way – though often from a direction you never anticipated。”
Why is that so？ I wondered then。 Now I say； why ever not？ How could we possibly expect to gauge in advance other people’s reactions？ It would be curious indeed if we could； since they have motives of their own； of which we know nothing。
But as long as we reach out； put into the world what we have of talents and mitment； like bread upon the waters it will e back– in one shape or another。
The thing to do is to keep trying； unfazed by rejection or failure； on the assumption that efforts do pay off； even though not necessarily in the way we expected。
Equality of opportunity is a fine ideal generally subscribed to。 Who wouldn’t agree that everyone should be given the same fair chance？
But how can we call it fair？ This principle； when applied； is the very anti…thesis of equality： a cruel weeding out of those unable to take advantage of the opportunities extended。
It would be different if all contenders started at the same base line。 But ask any primary school teacher to identify those seven…year…old pupils they consider unlikely to be “of much use to society”。 Their predictions will be largely accurate。
The little ones thus relegated to the bottom of the class will soon fall through the net and likely as not end up on the slag…heap of anti…social behaviour； crime and addiction：victims of a rigid value system that recognizes and rewards only certain narrowly defined assets。
But everyone； each and every one of us； has some potential worth exploring； something of value to contribute。 There is a place and role for every person born； none more； or less； important than the other。
We all have the ability to flourish as well as the right to excel；at our own level； on our own terms。
A truly fair society is based； not on equal opportunities but on a system of equal values。
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Gender 性别（1）
在我看来，没有所谓的女性的解放，解放要么存在于两个人之间，要不根本不存在。
作为一种概念，这种想法一定是存在于那些天真的女孩子脑子里的，她们把自己的身体当作一种他人可以享用的资产来看待。
与她们的母亲不同，她们的母亲往往经过了长久的对爱情的困惑后，将性视作一种羞耻和恐惧。现如今的女性都有种自由的精神，对自己的吸引力很有信心。她们自在地走进期待的世界中，试图品尝与男性之间平等的关系。
但情况往往是，她所遇到的男性，并未把女性的这种行为同样解读为女性解放，而仅仅将其视作她是在免费奉献她自己。
这种男人要么会利用她、伤她的心，要么可能在让女孩儿怀孕后，欺骗、遗弃、利用、虐待她。
很多年后，女人在回首往事的时候，一定想知道到底是什么摧毁了自己？作为一个女人她做错了什么？她曾经的信心到哪里去了？
那些运气好的少数女子，碰到的可能是与自己怀有同样想法的男人，不管他们之间是一时的纵情还是一生的承诺，他们都经历着最好的关系——平等和相互尊重，分享着快乐的体验和相互的欣赏。
所以，所有那些热衷于解放的年轻女人啊，要小心选择你们的伴侣，哪怕只是为了一夜情。
在维多利亚时代最优秀的一篇小说里，我读到了如下一句话：贫穷对我们下的最可怕的诅咒，是我们无法保护自己的女人。
在以前的年代，有钱人家的女人是不能在没有陪护的情况下出门的。穷人家的女人则常常与孩子一样，是易受攻击、脆弱以及猎物的代名词。
当我长大后，我母亲告诉我，年轻女孩儿独自在晚上出门或是远行而没有年长人的陪伴，这都是不体面的。
我对这种试图控制年轻女子的旧传统很是鄙夷。我出生在20世纪的后半期，习惯取悦我自己，喜欢环游世界，在任何我愿意的时候到任何我想去的地方。
我还记得自己在德国高速公路上行驶时那种激动的感觉，记得独自一人在清晨的巴黎拉丁区闲逛时的悠闲，记得在罗马欣赏巴洛克风格教堂时的沉醉。只有一次，在伦敦的Soho区，我迷路了。一个陌生人帮我叫了辆出租车，并告诉我一个人待在那儿是不安全的。
我们曾在报纸上读到过关于女人失踪、被强奸或谋杀的报道，她们曾错误地以为自己是安全的。事实是，我们依旧是毫无防卫的脆弱的人。这并非是旧有的偏见在阻碍我们追求自由�